Begin by making every choice for 10 seconds only. This really takes the pressure off of trying to make “the right choice”. If your whole universe feels like it collapses after you announce your intention to make a choice, with the 10-second rule you can choose again. Making each choice for only 10 seconds takes this pressure of judgment off your shoulders. The trick is to just choose, without any judgment at all. “Choice creates awareness, awareness does not create choice”, says Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness. However, how many of us have been acting like the opposite were true?
A major drawback of the one-choice- forever approach is that it puts tremendous pressure on the decider to make the right choice, which some find paralyzing. And once you have made “the right choice,” how much freedom do you have to change it if it’s not working as you’d like? Not much! This determination to hang onto past choices hoping we’ll someday either be right, or at least not wrong, is responsible for many marriages, business relationships, and other arrangements that we hang onto long past their “sell by” date.
Furthermore, when you have to make “the right choice,” how much judgment do you have to use? And how much do you have to judge yourself about the choice that you’re making?
Judgment is one of the major obstacles to our awareness, says Douglas. That very judging to determine what is the right choice blocks our awareness of all choices that do not agree with our judgments. Is it possible that awareness of the choices available and what they might create exactly is the information you need to make a choice that will bring you what you’re looking for? The choices that our judgment prevents us from seeing could be the very choices that will bring us what we’re looking for.
A further advantage of the 10-second choice is that it is not a lifetime commitment. Just making the choice can bring awareness of whether that choice will expand or contract your life; another beauty of this approach is that you are not committed to following through. If the choice makes your stomach turn to concrete and the lump in your throat impassable, then could it be that that’s awareness that the course you’ve chosen might not be bringing you what you hoped it will, or what will ultimately expand your life? Absolutely! What if using this tool allowed you to begin to trust your awareness more easily? What are the infinite possibilities?